We live in a digital age where most people uses ipads, iphones, and laptop as their means of communication. People are so attached to social media platforms to the point where they also search their future partner or love interest on different online dating sites and social media platforms.
For your online romance, whether for long-term or just a hook up here are some basic rules and a few tips on how to be successful on dating in the digital age.
DATING APPS: MODERN DATING RULES
- Your profile is the first thing people will notice. Be brief and be honest. Don’t write too long about yourself, nobody wants to read a novel about you before they even met you.
- Taking safety precautions is very important whether you’re dating in person or online. Never give your home phone number and address until you’re sure that you really want to get to know the person more. Always meet in public places when dating, bring someone with you for initial meet-ups, and always make sure to tell a friend where you’re going and whom you’re meeting.
WHEN GETTING OFFLINE
- When you’ve finally found your match, the time to take the relationship beyond boundaries of dating sites will eventually come. After exchanging emails, it’s time to have a conversation via cell phone. If you feel you don’t have chemistry while talking to him/her on a phone, then it’s unlikely that there will be spark in person. But if you do, then it’s time to meet-up.
THE FIRST DATE
- The ideal first date is a personal decision. You can get a 20-minute coffee date if you don’t feel to stay long for a first date or you can choose to have a dinner date if you really feel you both have the chemistry. And if by chance your first meet-up doesn’t what you expect or your date looks nothing like his/her photo, the best thing you could do is to be polite and keep the date short.
- If you both decided to become exclusively dating or to level-up your relationship, sit down and talk about your profiles on every online dating sites. If you both decided to become exclusive, you should agree to stop checking messages from dating sites and agree to pull down your profiles. In this case, you are both secure that no one is being unfaithful and you can concentrate more on “getting to know each other” stage.
SUCCESSFUL DATING IN DIGITAL AGE
Technology is so powerful that even dating and finding a potential love can be by means of using social media platforms, online dating sites, and cell phones. Dating in the age of technology has many challenges and here are some tips on how to be successful.
- When beginning a new relationship outside dating sites, do not use messaging or texting as means of communication. It is always better to get to know each other in person.
- When beginning a new relationship, stop searching and surfing from online dating sites. This means that you are not sure about the one you are currently with because you are still “chasing for the much better one”. Give him/her your full attention.
- When you’re on a date, refrain from using your cell phone and do not check your dating profile. It might look like you are not interested in your date.
- When you’re on a date, as much as possible, do not talk about your past relationship. It might give your date a clue that you are not over your ex yet.
- When you’re in an exclusively dating status, don’t be like an amateur private investigator. Conflict arises when one of you becomes insecure or becomes suspicious to your partner. instead of invading you partner’s privacy and constantly checking his/her text messages, inbox, and sent items, ask yourself, what could be missing? Maybe it’s time to talk about the issues. No one wants to date a crazy, possessive, control freak person.
- Every relationship has ups and downs. When the time comes that you are having a misunderstanding, stop yourself from taking it to social media. Don’t rant about it on Facebook. This is a no-no. You’re not only shaming your partner, you’re also making your conflicted relationship more complicated.
In a digital age, such as ours, we are so obsessed with “instant’ – we want connection and affection immediately. This is so wrong because every successful relationship built on hard work, honesty, commitment, and won’t work instantly.